I am trying to network my business but more importantly be a part of the heartlink. I have recently been

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Permalink Reply by Kristen Collins on February 16, 2010 at 1:29pm

Debra!

How exciting that your children are off at college! It's such a tribute to what a great mother you are! It shows that you raised them to stand on their own and make their mark in the world! My mother especially had a hard time when I left, but it really broadened our relationship! Now we are doing mother daughter things that we never made time for before.

As for continuing to discover who you are, I think it's like looking for your glasses. You are right in front of you! I've found that enrolling in a bunch of different activities helps. Donate your time at the local elementary school! Take ballroom dancing classes with your spouse or friend! If you do what inspires you and makes you happy, suddenly you have found glasses!

Hope this was helpful!

Kristen

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Permalink Reply by Debra Dascenzo on February 17, 2010 at 12:01pm

Kristen,

Thanks so much for responding and for your kind compliment..I love your analogy about the glasses.Its so strange but I have recently lost my day job so I kind of have a two fold thing going on. I have my own business though and I am trying to get out of my comfort zone and build on it till I find what I'm looking for in the work world. I always seem to get the jobs that aren't right for me.It might be because I never really thought about what I was good at when I was busy raising my kids. What do you do? Do you have children? Its so funny the things you mentioned. I actually have started taking ballroom dancing lessons with my husband, I joined a womans club and Toastmasters I thought that might help me with my business. I do want to do some volunteering and was wondering where to go so thanks for the idea to check at a local school I can do that. I have one near by so thanks for the suggestion. Maybe I'm half way to finding my glasses after all!

Stay in touch ok!

Debra

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Permalink Reply by Yvonne Padgett on February 18, 2010 at 11:55am

Debra,

Looks like you are on the right track after all! Kristen gave you some really great tips, cant top those. Keep putting one foot out in front of the other and keep connecting with others on line like you have when you need a little help. We might not be right there with you in person, but we are in spirit!

Yvonne Padgett

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Permalink Reply by Kristen Collins on February 18, 2010 at 1:05pm

Exactly!!!

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Permalink Reply by Debra Dascenzo on February 19, 2010 at 9:52am

Thanks for the support it help!

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Permalink Reply by Janine Aguero on February 26, 2010 at 11:51am

Hi Debra!
When my daughter left for college, I felt the same way, even though I still had 2 younger children to raise. I was really lonely for her, too, and that's one of the reasons we moved from NJ to AZ ~ she went to Uof A in Tucson...LOL! She's now in law school in California, but I got used to not having her around, so we are NOT relocating again!!! LOL!!

I put alot of time and energy into my business and started making new friends, thanks to Heartlink and other social networking sites. Meetup.com is a great place to find others who have the same interests as you.

Maybe the reason your "jobs" never work out is because you aren't meant to work for someone else. You say you have business, well, you should put all your efforts into your business. They say entrepreneurs have a much higher belief in themselves then the regular working "joe". That's why sometimes when we share our opportunities with "family and friends" they shy away....they just don't see the big picture like we do!

Good luck!

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Permalink Reply by Debra Dascenzo on February 26, 2010 at 5:50pm

Thanks alot for your comments I really believe you could be right. I know something keeps driving me because I want to help my kids with their college loans their genuinely beautiful people inside and out. I also want to get the word out to other women about my business it may fill a need of theirs. Maybe they'll be like me and have some of the same needs. I'm thinking of starting a heartlink in my area. It may be just what I need to do. There isn't one close to me. Do you belong to one? Are you glad you joined if you do belong to one?

Debra

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